some times we think to fast for our own good, I see it every day and it amazes me every time. It always starts with a problem, and then ends with little to no real solutions, people panic and think more about the emotional backlash of seed decision long before they commit to the reality of the situation.
Never did I think that a human the least 1 and 0 type machine wold panic much like a computer with a conflict in witch 1 or 0 did not fulfill the solution. That is to say they shut down, stick to there previous coarse of action, some ignore the problem others protest it, few actually tackle it.
The emotion that often times plagues the human machine is love, the love of a thing, the love of a person. It is love that confuses me the most as it is the least polarized emotion in the human spectrum, it forms out of nothing and fills the void between all things, and it go's both ways. yet when the conflict of logic finds its way between that of the emotional bonds of love, humans lose all logic and forget that the world is not binary. They become something else, personally I dislike dealing with people who is in the center of conflicts of the heart as they commit to this higher order of things. An order in witch the presence of love forgives all other flaws of logic. Its times like these that love dose become polarized and one sided. one party takes love as the goal, while another party looks at it as the means by witch all other things are held together.

If your confused thats fine, as I will try and clarify this as best I can.

How often do you mete some one who is without flaw in your opinion, then by some odd stroke on insanity you discover two rather interesting facts about the person.

1: They can not go 10 feat without a significant other in there life.
2: There significant other is fucking mental.

(sorry I'm giggling while writing this)

point I'm getting at is, some relationships are rather one sided yet some how both party's involved feel that its mutual.

I think I enjoy having the 10 foot back perspective of things as we are blind to that witch is closest to us. we forgive the flaws of some people to get something in return, and while in the market place thats good practice, I don't know how well that works out in the bed room.
Perhaps thats why arranged marriage where so popular. Both party's involved had some one else to blame other then them selfs when things went wrong. Thats to say you didn't feel cheated when you found out your wife was nuts, or that your husband is a pig. you could curse your parents and realize that your both in the same bucket of shit together.

This takes me to the last point, expectations.

People get involved with each other expecting walt dissny grade happiness in the land of make believe. however I say this, before you get involved with some one, count the number of lies and bent truths you told them in the course of leading up to his or her bed room. If you managed to run out of fingers or your fuzzy on the total count, chances are shes sleeping with some other guy and its not you. The same go's for you lady's, count the number of times you suppressed your crazy bitch tendancys that night and if your fuzzy on the details and or ran out of fingers, chances are hes trying to sleep with a totally different chick.

Now the meat heads are going to say "Different person? she/he cheating on me?" No MEAT HEAD, YOU ARE THE OTHER PERSON.

So simply put, stop treating life as a binary problem, and stop telling lies about the little things, and that go's both ways. If you stop telling lies, you need to also start excepting truths.

Id trust a man/women who lied to me first, told me the truth second and asked for forgiveness third. then a man who lied to me first, asked for forgiveness second and then try to tell me some other form of truth third.

Simply put, Full disclosure between you and those you love is the only thing you have that can honestly keep you together. so for me, Love is simply the person you cant tell a lie to.

and if the situation is dire, just say... "I don't want to lie to you, but I cant exactly tell you the truth"